musings

Advice As I’m Approaching 30

July 17, 2012, by 3 comments

In a few weeks, I’ll join Steph in the “30 and up” club.

I’m not expecting to wake up on August 8th and suddenly feel different because the first digit in my age has changed, but crossing the 30 barrier seems significant to me.

Most of the things that are “impressive” for someone “in their 20’s” are just expected for someone “in their 30’s”.

Kids, a mortgage, a savings account… nobody’s impressed when someone in their 30’s has those ducks in a row.

So I’m not quite freaking out, but this birthday has my attention…

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“You a good boy”

June 29, 2012, by No comments yet

Warning: this is one of those sappy posts that is borderline annoying, especially to those of you without kids. But it was a precious parenting moment…

We were at the mall this past week – all four of us – walking around after dinner at chick-fil-a…

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Lighten Up, Dad

May 23, 2012, by No comments yet

At lunch today, I stumbled across this article by Kevin Deyoung about parenting.

He hits the nail right on the head:

I was listening to this bit about children from Brian Regan and around the 1:35 mark he tells the story about his son flinging around half-eaten spaghetti from his mouth and watching the sauce splatter across the room. Regan explained that he made a mistake as a parent because he stopped him: “Hey man, knock that off. Can’t you see the paint on the walls is more important than the joy in your heart?!” At that last line the audience burst into loud laughter and applause.

I know, I know, it’s a stand-up routine and a not a sermon. Let’s not take it too seriously. But the audience resonated with the line–and so do many of us I imagine–because there is something uncomfortably and refreshingly insightful about the joke.

I find that I do this most with J out on the soccer field…

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When I Get To Heaven

March 13, 2012, by 2 comments

If you ask J who he’s most excited about meeting in heaven someday, he will tell you, without hesitation, “David!”.

As in, King David who killed Goliath.

He’s also keen on meeting Daniel, but mostly because I think he assumes that there will be lions involved.

Tim Keller often mentions how CS Lewis’ The Great Divorce has an interesting section where a mom is in hell and her son is in heaven, and an angel comes to visit her. She asks the angel whether there’s anything she can do to go to heaven. The angel asks her why she wants to go to heaven, and she says “I want to be wherever my son is.” The angel tells her, “That’s the problem. Heaven is heaven because JESUS is there. Your god is your son.”

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“Looking For A Woman Like You”

March 5, 2012, by 3 comments

I’ve been on a country music kick lately, and I found a new song that I like a lot.

Every so often, Steph will ask me questions like, “What do you think you would be doing right now if you had never met me?”

The married men reading this will understand that it’s a totally loaded question.

In all honesty, if I had never met my wife, then some things would probably be better on the surface:

I’d probably have better stuff, get out on my mountain bike more, keep up with sports better, and have a little more traveling under my belt.

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